No, It’s Not Twins
Everywhere I go, people are quizzing me
“Do you know the sex?”
“When are you due?”
When I tell them it’s a boy their smiles deepen and they say
“you must be over the moon since you already have girls”
When I reveal my due date the smiles drop off their face, their eyes bulge and they sputter things like:
“It’s twins, right?”
“They must not have your dates correct”
“When? I think I misheard you”
I bite my tongue, toss off a nervous smile, wince a bit, swing my girth in the other direct and repress some tears. Of course one comment this weekend took the cake.
“Darn you all have to leave so soon? I was hoping the kids could play a little longer.”
“Well, we have another party to get to today…”
“Oh I thought you were leaving to go have the baby!”
Um what?
I’m only around 26 weeks…
PS you can vote in our baby name poll HERE
These are the names we are working with at the moment, of course around here, they are subject to change minute to minute.
December 5th, 2006 at 8:37 am
you look beautiful honey.
December 5th, 2006 at 4:58 pm
Dude, people are so freaking ignorant. When I was 30 weeks, the girl who worked in the cubicle next to me one day stood up and leaned over the wall and looked at me. She said “WOW! You are SOOOO BIG today!” “Um, thanks,” I said. “Are you going on maternity leave tomorrow?” She asked. “No, I’ve still got another couple months.” I replied. “Oh my god, really? Are you having TRIPLETS??”
Later that day, I was in the ladies room fixing my hair, and the same woman walked in with another co-worker. While the 3 of us were all using the mirror, she started talking to the other woman about how enormous she thinks I am, as though I wasn’t even there. “…and I said to her ‘You are so big!!’ I think she should just tell her doctor to induce her now. That baby should not be allowed to get any bigger!” All I could do was give her a snotty look and go back to my cubicle and cry.
Did I mention this woman has no children? Yeah. People are idiots. There should be a rule about never having a conversation with a preggo about the size of her belly unless *she* initiates it.
You look fantastic, and you obviously have an extrememly healthy baby boy.
December 5th, 2006 at 5:56 pm
So inconsiderate. You do look lovely.
December 5th, 2006 at 6:28 pm
You look amazing, and like you have a belly full of big, healthy baby.
December 5th, 2006 at 6:42 pm
I voted! You’re due on my husband’s birthday. Anyway…all great names.
When people hear it takes a village, they take it too much to heart and think they are entitled to make stupid comments and hear the intimate details of your pregnancy. Sheesh.
You look great, and sometimes I wish I still had my baby belly. Never thought I’d miss it after my baby was born….
December 5th, 2006 at 9:17 pm
At least they know you’re pregnant. I got a lot of, “Oh, you’re pregnant??”
No. I just got realllllllly fat within the last 6 months.
Okay, I voted.
December 5th, 2006 at 9:35 pm
You look great! I love being pregnant….Voted on your names…
December 6th, 2006 at 12:00 am
Girl you look just fine! And you know I picked Jonas cause if your Joey ends up like mine, you are gonna be one lucky mama!
Binski
December 6th, 2006 at 12:49 am
I was probably bigger than you with my second. I remember people not believing that I still had months left to go. Keep your head up, and remember the important thing is how you feel.
December 6th, 2006 at 1:54 am
darling… your belly is adorable. having never had a kiddo, i have no idea if your belly is really larger than normal or not… but keep thinking it’s the kid who is large…you’re surrounding the kid…
not sure if that made any sense…but i’m getting SO excited for you!
December 6th, 2006 at 2:46 am
You look great! But unfortunately, that won’t stop people from being stupid.
December 7th, 2006 at 12:31 am
Looks like a nice healthy boy you are growing there! I went and voted and if you would like, you can have it on the 4th instead..that’s Tia’s birthday!
December 7th, 2006 at 3:00 am
Don’t pay those blowhards any mind, they’re all just jealous.
Um, on second thought … they’re stupid, too.
December 7th, 2006 at 3:56 pm
Bless your heart, sweets! I heard those comments the entire time I was pregnant with #3. Yes, I was sure it wasn’t twins, and yes, I knew when I was due. Which was actually wrong, by 5 weeks. (the joys of conceiving on DepoProvera) Turns out I was just really huge, even after only gaining 4 lbs the entire pg.
You look fantastic!!!!
December 8th, 2006 at 3:11 am
Yeah, I was HUGE. Whaleish, even. I got that all the time. My favorite was
“You don’t look like you need a C-section. Have you looked into VBAC?”
Thanks, lady I just met in the public bathroom. Didn’t know you had a PHD.
December 8th, 2006 at 7:10 am
Hello Fidget’s Baby in the Belly!
I just love pregnant tummies. What a cool thing eh? I mean, babies just make their homes right in there! I mean, of course they do, but when you stop to think about it, about what an incredible dwelling it is, so efficient and beautiful…jeez.
December 9th, 2006 at 10:06 pm
Sigh. Yeah. I’ve heard lots of ignorant quips like the one you wrote about and those in the comments. “Oh, too bad you have hellacious morning sickness, but you can afford to lose a few pounds!” (size-2 coworker. I was a size 8 at at the time.) “Oh, you da biggest pregnant girl I did ever see!” (size-0 tailor)”Oh! Really? You’re pregnant?” (size-0 friend I hadn’t seen in awhile.)
December 10th, 2006 at 1:59 am
You look great.
I think in some strange way, people are jealous.
They are jealous of our baby-full bellies, at the life growing inside, and the beautiful-ness of the whole thing.
I think that in some, maybe unconscious way, they feel the need to make us feel bad, because we look so amazingly beautiful, and the life that only we women can grow and nurture is intimidating to some….
December 11th, 2006 at 2:40 am
What kind of idiots actually say “twins?” I can never get over the stupidity of people. I always wish I could come back with something snarky but I’m usually too stunned to say anything at all.
From what I can tell, you look just like a healthy pregnant mama to a healthy baby to be.
December 11th, 2006 at 1:28 pm
Hey Girl! You are the Crazy Hip Blog Mama Mom of the Week!! Please email me at crazyhipblogmamasMOTW@gmail.com so I can get you the questionaire (I can’t find a link to your email address on your blog!)
Thanks! And congrats!!
December 13th, 2006 at 11:39 pm
Who cares what they say–congratulations and how exciting for you. I always loved the name Heath and swore I’d name a son that if I ever had another.
December 15th, 2006 at 4:11 am
I’m short-torsoed, so when I was pregnant the baby stuck straight out. I got lots of comments, but the best was the “greeter” lady at church that LAUGHED at me every single time she saw me.
At least one of us was amused.
December 19th, 2006 at 3:22 am
Just found you on Crazy Hip Blog Mama - what a fabulous tummy!!! I ran into a gay male friend about a year after I had my daughter who said “hey–you lost some weight” and he was amazed to hear that the last time he’d seen me I was right at 41 weeks preggers and a day away from being induced. Loved that he obviously thought I’d just been hitting the Mallomars…
December 25th, 2006 at 3:57 pm
Someone shoot me! I’m one of the idiots! I’m infertile. I’ve tried everything, including IVF and lost the only preganancy I managed to achieve. I think pregnant women are beautiful! The bigger the belly, the more stunning the miracle of pregnancy seems. I always comment on belly size. I love the large baby bellies! I am so sorry to all the woman this has bothered! Just to tell you how naive and unaware I am in this sensitive area, when you mentioned you repressed tears I thought it was because it was originally twins and one didn’t make it. I need the OLS’ bang head against wall smiley…. I think you look absolutely gorgeous. In the future, I will be more careful. My belly comments to pregnant woman has always been “Belly love.” I never knew it might upset Mom